Some Kids Are More Chill Than Others

Every kid is different. If you have more than one child, you most definitely realize this. However, if you only have one child, you may not realize that two kids, even when raised the same way can turn out very differently. Something that worked for one child may not work for another child. It would be nice if you knew exactly what your child needed as they grow, but you will often be left guessing as to what to do.

Don’t judge another parent because they’re child is not nearly as well-behaved as your child is. There are multiple reasons why this may be the case. It’s true that the parents may not be doing a great job at being a parent, but there’s also a really good chance that the child is simply nowhere near as calm as your child is. Some kids have a much calmer demeanor than others from birth.

You may have a child who will sit and listen all day long to everything you tell them. They may gladly stay calm when you need them to, and keep quiet most of the time. On the other hand, you may also have a child who is always on the go and never wants to sit and rest at all. No matter what you do, they simply want to keep going all the time. It’s often exhausting when you have a child like this.

We have kids that fall on both sides of the spectrum here. Our first child is go, go, go all the time. He never wants to sit for more than two minutes. It’s from one activity to another right after the previous activity. He wouldn’t sit through a television show until he was over 5 years old, no matter how much TV we let him watch. He always needs to be doing something and never wants to hear it quiet.

Our second child on the other hand can sit and play or read a book for 30 minutes without issue. He’ll gladly play by himself, and he doesn’t really need anyone else to keep him entertained or quiet. When he’s told to do something, he will generally quickly comply and get to it. He’s much more easy going than our first child, and is often found eating dinner even after everyone else has already finished.

So what’s the difference between these two kids? Obviously they were born into slightly different circumstances as one of them didn’t have any siblings while the other did. We also were in different homes when the two kids were born. But these differences between them have been there since they were born for the most part. In other words, something natural inside of them affects how they act.

That doesn’t mean that we love one of our children more than that the others - we simply love them differently. They are different human beings, and they both have their shortcomings. When we want to get outside and be active, our very active child will quickly get up and get moving while it takes more work with the younger child. We never have to worry about physical activity and screen time with the older one either - there are some things that are easier with each and things that are harder.

Every child is different. You shouldn’t judge a parent based solely on how their child acts. Sometimes, kids simply have a stronger inclination to not listen or constantly be on the move.